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Watching Our Children Cope with Narcissist Abuse

One of the most difficult pains to endure as a parent is to watch our children’s other parent totally abuse, ignore, criticize, abandon, reject or otherwise disappoint our children. We know that our children are innocent in who their parents are. And as we, the adults, learn about emotional abuse and narcissism, we still struggle, even though we possess analytical abilities and some harsh life experience.  READ MORE

Coping With Narcissistic Confabulators

I looked up the word, confabulation, in the dictionary, and it stated that it was a memory disorder affecting a person’s ability to remember facts accurately, without the intent to deceive.   Confabulation involves misinterpreted or misrepresented memories, where the confabulator is stating the recollection of events with a distorted or completely false account of what actually occurred.  READ MORE

Define The Terms

When involved with an abuser it it very common to get caught up in his or her "game" where you end up constantly responding and reacting to the madness, and you find yourself doing it automatically, without even thinking. Before you know it, you realize you are on the end of someone else's psychological yo-yo, going up and down with his or her moods.  READ MORE

Beware – The Narcissist Wound

You have seen no greater wrath than a narcissist wound.  When you take away a narcissist’s supply source, all Hell breaks loose!  Make no mistakes; taking on a narcissist is no simple task.  Prepare for battle; no, better yet, prepare for full on WAR.  You know the saying, “there is no fury like a woman scorned,” well, I contend that a woman scorned pales in comparison to a narcissist being told, “No,” and losing a source of supply.  READ MORE

Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome

Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is the unhealthy coalition between a narcissistic parent and his or her children against the targeted, non-narcissistic, non-abusive parent. The innocent or targeted parent receives hostility and rejection from his or her children in this system. The psychological health of the children is used as arsenal in the narcissist’s twisted world.  READ MORE

Bigger Than Life

When trying to break out of a relationship with a narcissist, you face many brutal realizations.  I liken a narcissist to a drug and our attachment to the narc as a drug addiction.  I read somewhere the statement, “Narcissists are addictive.”  Why is this so?  There are many reasons; one, is that they are “bigger than life.” Narcissists are not your typical persons, and relationships with them are anything but “normal.”  READ MORE

Recognizing Parental Alienation Syndrome

It is beneficial for therapists, those in the law profession, and individuals involved with the children of narcissistic clients or partners to be aware of a concept known as parental alienation syndrome: how it is created, and what to do about it. In a normal attachment relationship, people are not interchangeable because each person is valuable in and of him or herself. However, this is not true for a narcissist.  READ MORE

Coping with Covert Abuse

Covert abuse is hard to identify because it isn’t as obvious as overt abuse. It flies “under the radar” and is hard to detect. If your abuse happened in childhood it is even more insidious because your points of reference are limited. Before proceeding, let’s define what covert abuse is.  READ MORE

Healing from the Narcissistic Mother

Suzy recounts her journey through healing after the effects of being raised by a narcissistic mother.  As a child, Suzy thought she was bad and unworthy. She constantly feared rejection and felt hurt and worthless most of the time. She had no idea that something was wrong with her mother and that her problems were not her fault. She began a healing journey that involved therapy, education, journaling, relationships with affirming people, and detachment from her narcissistic mother. Here is her story:  

Holding Your Own With a Narcissist (or other Personality Disordered Person)

It may have come to your attention by now that the narcissist or other type of manipulator in your life defines the terms. This is because he/she has two essential motives – to get his/her way, and to look good doing it.  Ordinary people do not bode well with these narcissistic types because they tend to play by a different set of rules – fair ones; ones that involve cooperation, collaboration, equality.  READ MORE

How to Stay with a Narcissist

Having a sustainable relationship with a narcissist can be challenging. Here is a list of tips to help you stay in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic. Realize that some of these tips contradict each other; this is because remaining in a long term relationship with a narcissist is a contradictory endeavor.  READ MORE

Coping with a Narcissist, Psychopath, or other Personality-Disordered Person

Do you love or come in contact with on a frequent basis a person who seems IMPOSSIBLE to live with, let alone converse with, raise children with, spend holidays with, etc.? These are the personalities that just know how to get under our skin and drive us crazy. They know which buttons to push and love to push them.  READ MORE

Love and the Narcissist

One thing you must realize when you love a narcissist is that your experience is one-sided, as he is incapable of either giving or receiving love.  This concept may be hard to grasp at first, but if you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissist than this theory definitely explains a lot.  READ MORE

Recognizing Narcissistic Abuse

When you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, you tend to not realize that you are experiencing “real” abuse, such as victims of physical and sexual abuse.  In addition to this, so many people do not understand what narcissism is and are completely oblivious to what narcissist abuse is.  READ MORE

The Silent Treatment

For some reason narcissists’ favorite weapon is the silent treatment.  They love to ignore you and they love for you to know that they are ignoring you.  Why is that?  Let’s parse this concept apart.  The silent treatment is not blatant; it’s insidious.  The only person who really feels the silent treatment is the target.  The person giving the silent treatment is not being overtly aggressive, abusive, or unkind in any visible way.  READ MORE

Trying Harder Never Works with a Narcissist

Be forewarned, if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, stop trying harder to please him or her. It will be a never ending, thankless endeavor, with negative results.Traits of good character:  humility, repentance, self-awareness, wisdom, truth, forgiveness.  READ MORE

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